
My stress can be performative
My stress and overwhelm can be performative. I don’t know how to ask for help and I fear people will say no if I ask. So sometimes when I start to feel slightly overwhelmed at holding space for toddler feels and Mitch is around, I exaggerate the stress I am experiencing. My conditioning says that in order to get help, I need to be perceived to be in complete overwhelm or hopelessness. That I am not worthy of help unless I am about to crack. And when people can see that, they