We are conditioned to feel a certain way about the word ‘emotional’. Being called ‘emotional’ use to mean to me showing sadness or extreme stress. But. Emotions are so much more than that. Emotions are communication. They have so much they can tell us about how our current experience is being impacted by our past. They have so much to tell us about how we want to move forward. In saying that, I don’t think we always need to process or over intellectualize how we are feeling.
Love Hard Kicked my toosh. This film uncovered for me some important beliefs I still hold about how we present ourselves in situations and how acceptable I perceive the wearing of masks to meet certain ends. Our heroine falls for someone she meets on an online dating app, flies to the other side of America just before Christmas to surprise him, only to find she had been catfished. What this film uncovered for me was a deep seated belief that as long as our physical appearance
This week, has been a year I tell you! (oh, hang on. Am I doing it again? 😉). After a deep and all the feels #BearMode Monday morning (some of you may have seen my IG stories), we had an accident with Mr 2.5 that required a trip to the Emergency Department. Well by WE, I mean ME. He had been laying happily on the ground and wanted me to get our wooden nutcracker ornaments for him to play with. They were on the shelf. I got them, turned around to bend down to given them to hi
My stress and overwhelm can be performative. I don’t know how to ask for help and I fear people will say no if I ask. So sometimes when I start to feel slightly overwhelmed at holding space for toddler feels and Mitch is around, I exaggerate the stress I am experiencing. My conditioning says that in order to get help, I need to be perceived to be in complete overwhelm or hopelessness. That I am not worthy of help unless I am about to crack. And when people can see that, they
I have so often had a moment of clarity around a pattern that I have kept repeating or read a fantastic book with many penny drop moments; and assumed this would all just become a part of me forever. It didn’t. I forgot. I repeated patterns. The same opportunities for me to grow kept showing up in different relationship or in different scenarios and the wonderful learnings I took from a book were never to be thought about again. Ok so not alllll of the time, but a lot. I star
What I find really interesting, is that many of the key things I have learnt that have helped me thrive these last couple of years, only came into my awareness or integrated properly just before that (yessss I get it, that’s how it works Lol). Growing up I learnt all the basic human stuff like we all do (and accumulated some crappy habits and beliefs), but it was the juicy stuff that realllly helps you thrive that came later. I get it, I had to crawl before I could walk right
I used to have a very different relationship to the word ‘professional’. Like many of my major changes in perception, it came after the birth of my son and Postnatal Depression and Anxiety in 2019. I was forced to critically question every aspect of my life, to question assumptions and conditioning that were my operating system and habits up until that point. I unpacked all of the traits I had bundled up in the performance of being ‘professional’. What I found was I didn’t li
My fear of rejection has kept me small and misunderstood. It took me a long time (up until my late 20’s) to truly understand the impact this has had on my life. When I look back with kindness, compassion and critical reflection I can see how I have sabotaged myself and negatively impacted those around me time and time again. In friendships. In romantic relationships. As an employee. In many instances I was scared to be myself as I had the belief that people wouldn’t like me i